Psychologist's advice - respect and mutual love, friendship, control of selfishness.

Illusion of young people: "Mutual love is the most beautiful gift that life can give you... If you find such a person who loves you just for who you are, take care of him .. ". Family psychologist's advice to women and men about creating a happy couple: "in order to create a good family, you should try to choose the best possible partner in terms of spiritual qualities, character, and other characteristics."

Mutual love requires two hearts and two energies, male and female. In order to achieve mutual love, knowledge is needed. Therefore, you need to ask a question to a good psychologist-analyst "how to open the heart and fill it with the energy of love." And implement his advice.

Tips and minimum conditions for creating a happy family based on the Holy texts of various religions: "A wife should respect her husband, and a husband should love his wife."

The main rules, signs and components of a happy family: "This is how husbands should love their wives as their bodies: he who loves his wife loves himself. So let each of you love his wife as himself; and let the wife fear her husband. (Eph. 5:28,33)".

This is where the problems arise. On the male side, very few young people can love like this before the age of 25. On the female side, very often we have disrespect for the husband's wife, as a result of the problems of raising the wife. A psychologist's advice about love and respect: "If the wife does not respect her husband, he will look for respect elsewhere (at work, with friends, with other women, in the garage, at the computer, and so on)."

Free advice of a family psychologist for women and men about love: "For two people to have mutual love, each of them needs to go through the stages of development of such spiritual qualities as honesty, trust, respect, love ". Once upon a time, a man reaching the level of love, and a woman reaching the level of respect, was a necessary condition for creating a happy family. The level of true love is an independent change of character for the better and service to the family and society.

Mutual love is the highest form of love that a man and his wife achieve during a long time of family life. In this phase, even the quality of sexual life changes due to the fact that there is a strong flow of energy. Statistics say that from two to twenty percent of married couples reach this phase of cohabitation, depending on their living conditions.

A psychologist's advice on personality development: "It takes about seven years to develop each level. A young man, under the condition of proper upbringing, can develop to the level of love by the age of 28. To enter into a successful marriage, a girl must reach at least the beginning level of love. That is, she can prepare for marriage by the age of 17."

If a young man or girl starts sexual life early, then there is no development of even starting qualities, such as honesty, trust, respect. And to be precise, there is a balancing act on the verge of losing the qualities of "honesty, trust". We live under one roof.

It is important to maintain a balance in the relationship between the feelings of love and selfishness. Useful advice of a family psychologist to women and men about love and selfishness: "treat your neighbors with love, but do not develop selfishness in them." It is especially not necessary to develop selfishness in children. Psychological technologies are used to balance love and selfishness.

In a family, spouses influence each other. Where there is love and respect, this happens easily, but where there is no love and respect, the use of violence occurs. If the spouses have not reached at least the level of friendship, that is, respect, then it will be impossible for them to help each other become better. It will be difficult to raise good children.

Advice of a great psychologist of antiquity to young men and women about the secrets of family happiness: "At first, newlyweds should especially beware of disagreements and fights, looking at how newly glued pots easily fall apart at the slightest push; on the other hand, later, when the places of attachment become strong, neither fire nor iron will take them." Plutarch